Healing Relationship to the Masculine

“All men are d!ckheads.”

This is a phrase I’ve heard throughout my life from women of all ages. Women who are at the same time searching for their “dream man”. Can you see the paradox here? The vibration you radiate is what will be drawn to you. You will be continuously met with your own truth unless you change it.

It’s time to look inward.

Are you willing to consider why you are attracting men with these unfavourable qualities? Are you brave enough to own whatever it is in your frequency that draws these energies to you? Is it a lack of self worth, a need to be rescued, your hidden desires and fetishes, your compulsion to fix and control?

Can you take responsibility for it? Can you recognise the lesson being presented to you by this meeting?

And can you take it deeper?

Can you tap into the compassion that comes so naturally to the feminine, and consider the root of these traits within the masculine? Traits that have been shaped from years of a patriarchal system that does not support the brotherhood, but is only out for the “I”, the number one. Traits that have been shaped by a lack of initiation into manhood. By lack of support, by lack of a tribe.

And now, can you stand in support of the men who are actively working to change the paradigm and heal the wounds carried within themselves and the male lineage, so they can play their part in creating a structure that supports themselves, women and their fellow brothers?

If you don’t believe these men exist, men who are actively doing the work to integrate the masculine shadow and rise beyond it, they do. If you know them, show your support. If you don’t know them, send your energetic support to them anyway. And that begins with taking phrases such as “All men are d!ckheads” out of your vocabulary.

You will be continuously met with your own truth unless you change it. If you want to create better relationships with the masculine, then to the best of your ability, show up for your brothers with authentic compassion, support and understanding. Opening yourself up to truly “seeing” the masculine, and very importantly, also allowing yourself to be truly “seen” by them in turn, will begin to shift the dynamics and patterns within you that attract the immature masculine energy to you. This is not an overnight process, so you must also show up for yourself with authentic compassion, support and understanding as you evolve. But it is a process that begins from within.